"You didn't come to prove yourself and have it all together and figured out. It is normal to mess up, have failures, and be perfectly imperfect. You are totally and unconditionally loved by Source/God/The Benevolent And Loving Universe."
The Joy Energy

In the past, I have suffered a lot with inner dialogues of who is right and who is wrong.

I wasted a lot of time being mad at myself or others about little stuff that just didn't matter.

I remember a particularly beautiful moment when my husband got mad at me for not putting his cassettes back in their cases. 

I didn't get swept up in his drama. I said to myself, "So what if I did leave them out? I'm human. This isn't life-threatening. This doesn't make me a bad person." But many of us, including me, were raised up to blame and judge instead of focusing on moving forward and improving things.

I humorously said, "Oh, my gosh, did you alert the cassette police? This sounds serious!"

I could see my unusual response had thrown him off. Normally I would have been defensive or apologetic. I could feel his anger deflate. 

The beautiful deal is I didn't get caught up in making him a bad guy either, and that felt good too.

From there I was able to point out because he was in a state of mind he could hear, that a lot of the cassettes collecting dust unsheathed, were ones he listened to and not me.

We both agreed to make more of an effort to put them back in their cases. 

"There is no greater gift than feeling good in the now moment."